Women are angels from heaven. Without women, the universe have no meaning for life. Everyone deserves to be pampered, shown attention, care and concern when needed it. Take a break from the stressful world and spend some private time to know me and you will find the difference. Your worries will be eased. Get to know the sensuality within Lynn.
“What makes a good clients – part 2”
…respects an escort’s time:
A good client is respectful of an escort’s time. He doesn’t waste her time with endless e-mails/texts before meeting (unless she openly encourages the correspondence). He doesn’t waste her time with numerous cancellations and rescheduling. He doesn’t break an appointment without calling first. Nor does he try to extend his allotted time with her (he can ask, but she may have other plans).
In short, a good client treats an escort’s time as valuable to her; much as his time is probably valuable to him.
…is discreet:
A good client is discreet. Discretion also extends to any time they spend together in public. No escort wants attention drawn to her while she’s with a client. Likewise, she doesn’t like spending time with an overly-prying client. Although a good client is genuinely interested in his companion, he understands the line between personal interest and being intrusive.
…understands the mystery of chemistry:
A good client recognizes that this is a very personal business. Sometimes people have chemistry, and sometimes they don’t. Not everyone will always get along with everyone else. Sometimes the client grates on the escort’s nerves. Sometimes she can’t find his wavelength. Good clients understand that professional escorts make every effort to make him happy. And if they don’t click; it wasn’t meant to be.
…is good company:
A good client is nearly always a positive person. Misery may love company, but company does not really like hanging around misery. Some men visit escorts precisely because they need cheering up. But a constantly depressed client who never seems to enjoy the attention they receive from their companions will never be a favored client. They may be harmless in every other way, but a miserable person is a miserable person. Escorts enjoy feeling like they’ve made a difference, even if for a small amount of time. An always-gloomy client ends up depressing his companion as well.
“What’s makes a good clients – part 1”
Almost everything that makes a client ‘good’ is motivated by respect for the escort.
A good client is someone who :
…recognizes the escort as an individual:
First and foremost, a good client is a man who recognizes that his paid companion is an individual woman and he respects her as a person. This usually requires some maturity in the client (which is why a lot of escorts don’t want to see men under 30), along with having had some solid relationships with women (also part of the reason for the 30-and-over rule).
Often, men who haven’t had much experience with escorts don’t understand this concept. They see escorts as a commodity or service and not as a personal relationship. With enough experiences, or meeting the right escort, they usually realize their mistake in perception and change their ideas about the person they pay for companionship.
Some men refuse to see any escort as more than a living sex doll. These men are almost universally loathed by escorts.
Good clients realize that they’re arranging to meet a person and start a relationship, much like dating. They view the search for an escort as informed blind-dating, not shopping for wives.
…pays correctly and is clean:
A good client shows his respect in two tangible ways. He always pays the correct amount without any fuss and he is clean.
Many escorts require payment up front in an envelope. A good client understands her rules and follows them to the letter (this usually involves not drawing attention to the moment). This establishes a lot of trust with her and he shows that he respects the way she chooses to run her business.
This is not always possible for a client coming straight from the office or a worksite. In that case, he will take advantage of any shower facilities available. It’s only polite and a good client is polite!
Many escorts like to keep mouthwash or sample-sized toothbrushes/toothpaste handy as well. A good client intuitively knows why those items are there.
…doesn’t haggle:
A good client does not haggle or negotiate. An escort’s rates are her rates. Period. If he wants a better deal, he can become a regular client and try to negotiate from there (with a better chance of success) or he searches for someone within his financial range.
All escorts are luxury items, no matter what they actually charge. A paid companion is not a basic necessity for life. Good clients recognize payment for what it is – a charge for an out-of-the-ordinary personal experience.
…doesn’t push boundaries:
A good client does not try to push boundaries. A good client doesn’t try to force his way past whatever boundary lines an escort decides to draw in her work.
Some men think such boundaries are there as a personal challenge. Others feel they can use money as a tool to bribe their way past the comfort zone. These men aren’t good clients. A good client respects his companion and realizes there’s a reason for how she structures her work. An escort can create any number of boundaries for herself – from safer sex to intimacy to travel arrangements; she makes her decisions based on what she feels is best for her well-being.
A good client is a man who recognizes that the lady leads this dance and waits for her to bring him further into her comfort zone.
…understands screening:
A good client understands why an escort needs to screen and willingly shares the information she requests. Of course, good clients are also worried about what happens with their information. They will do their best to find escorts that seem reputable, reliable, selective, discreet and trustworthy. An escort who wants to attract good clients will make sure she doesn’t cause doubts in an already-skeptical potential client.
Men who don’t care about an escort’s safety won’t be willing to give even minimal screening information. They aren’t good clients.
“Treat your partner like a dog”
The biggest factor in determining the quality of a relationship is the way we view other people, particularly our partner. Is there something we can possibly learn from treating our partner the way we treat a dog?
We accept a dog unconditionally, because we know they’re a dog. We don’t expect them to be what they’re not, because they’re completely authentic. Acceptance is the greatest gift you can give to a person because it’s the greatest sign of respect. Respect builds trust and without trust there is no relationship.
Accept your partner just as he or she is:
We accept dogs just as they are, we don’t expect them to be anything else. If a dog does something we don’t like, we may get upset and reprimand them, but we almost immediately forgive them. We think, “well, after all they’re just a dog” or “they’re just being natural.”
Dogs don’t try to be something that they’re not. They are completely authentic. They react to their environment and their natural instincts. Because we know this, we accept them.
If we can learn to accept our partner just as they are, our relationships will transform miraculously. Accepting your partner completely is the biggest sign of respect you can give them. It means you love and respect them enough to know they’re making their decisions based on what they know is right. That doesn’t mean you can’t offer them support and guidance, but you don’t find them guilty for not being who you think they should be. After all, they’re not you; they are themselves.
People, like dogs, react better to reward than punishment:
When we pick out all the things we don’t like about dogs, we’re focusing only on the negative. When we constantly punish them for being who they are, we’re telling them it’s not okay to be who they are. This only creates feelings of guilt and resentment.
It works the same way with our partners. When we focus on all the negative things about them, we’re sending them a subliminal message: we don’t think it’s okay for them to be who they are. People often defend themselves by saying something like “I only try to help them because I care” or “I just love them so much that I want to make them better.” But this type of behavior simply leads a person to feel like they’re constantly being rejected. They’re never good enough.
If we instead focus on the positive attributes of the other person, we send them a message of acceptance. When a person knows that we respect them enough to accept them as they are, they’ll also be more likely to take our criticism and guidance. People need to know that you see their strengths first, before their flaws.
Love comes from within first, with out second:
Dogs may seek our approval, love and acceptance, but they don’t rely on it. They have their own sense of joy, playfulness and love that comes from within. They enjoy our company and love, but their sense of self doesn’t come from it.
When our sense of self comes from our partner, we leave ourselves vulnerable to the ups and downs of the relationship. When our partner acts in a loving way, we feel good. But when our partner is unloving, we feel down. This is because our source of love is rooted with out, not within.
When we find love from within ourselves first, we have a much greater capacity to give it. We’re not relying on our partner to give it to us. This also makes it much easier to love our partner when they are not so loving towards us.
Forgive and forget:
When dogs does something wrong and we lose our temper, they naturally feel ashamed, as though they let us down. They might resent us for a while, because in their mind they didn’t know any better. But they forgive much more quickly then we humans tend to.
We, on the other hand, have a powerful memory and tend to take things personally. We have a feeling of personal importance; that whatever “they” did it must be about me. But usually, it wasn’t about you at all. It was about them. Whatever someone does to hurt you, it really has nothing to do with you. It was their beliefs, opinions and feelings that caused them to react the way they did. It’s easy to see this when you know that the more emotional security and self-esteem you have, the less likely you are to take offense to others wrongs. On the other hand, the more emotional baggage you carry around, the more likely you’ll take offense to others actions. In psychology, this is what we call projection.
This whole way of thinking stems from personal importance and trying to live up to an image of perfection that we have in our minds. We think that we should be a certain way, but we know we aren’t. So we find ourselves guilty and punish ourselves. We play the game of the judge and the victim constantly in our minds. Because we do this so much with ourselves, we naturally do this with others. We don’t know any better.
Dogs on the other hand are completely authentic. They know that they are a dog and they accept it. They don’t try to be something they’re not and they don’t expect you to be something you’re not. That’s why it’s so easy for your dog to forgive you when you do something wrong. If there’s one thing we can learn from this, it is forgiveness.
“A lonely biz”
Despite the fact that I may correspond with numerous clients on any given day and have appointments with severals within the span of a single week, being an escort can make a person feel isolated from the rest of the world.
The world of escorting is entirely different than getting up every morning and going to work at the office. Due to the nature of the business and other concerns, being an escort can be very lonely.
Firstly, the escort industry is not usually an acceptable profession for most people. After a hard day at work, I can’t talk about the client who tried to stiff me, the guy who didn’t know what he wanted or the time waster who asked tons of repeated questions only to find out he wasn’t ever going to show up for a date. The support system that most people find within their families or circle of friends doesn’t usually exist for me. It can make one feel unappreciated, misunderstood and unaccepted.
Leading a double life, like many escorts does, makes it difficult to keep relationships intact. If you’re capable of spinning a good enough story to keep friends and family members fooled, you may be guilt ridden about lying to them. Living a lie is difficult, just as avoiding the truth is, too. Friends and family members are likely to realize that something is not legit when something in your story doesn’t add up; facing up to their disappointment when the truth finally comes out can be scary. It can result in isolation or further conflict.
Sometimes the inability to trust others inhibits an escort’s ability to form long-standing relationships and friendships with others. Never knowing who to trust is hard.
Many argue that escorts have a wide range of support from their clients. However, even though there may be genuine affection and concern as a part of an escort’s relationships with her clients, it’s not as deep as true friendships are. Clients are still clients; they only know the “me” that I allow them to know. I give them their illusion or dream girl. They never get to know the real me…
“The silence concealed”
I’m aware that my writings can come off as pompous. I do not want to give this impression, as I’m rather humble. But my instances with great admirers and lovers induced these realities — I never elected to be praised or admired, but fate had it that I am a delicate rose for them…
It would be incorrect to say that I’ve been empty and sad continuously. An escort’s life and experiences witnesses an amalgam of emotions; nothing is static. In the past years, there has been happiness and many blessings, and I’ve had many beautiful experiences. I am very thankful for them. Wounds remains fresh. I am trying to see the beauty in this pain. For the moment, I honor love by lonesome tears, finding the torment of separation unbearable, hopeless at times. The beautiful memories are starting to become clouded amongst the pain. I concealed all of my pains with the facade of pride, thereby masking the tears of honor.
In hopeless moments, the truth remains in the heart. I, and only myself, knows the extent of my heart, the honoring of love through tears.
“Life as it should be”
In my next life I want to live my life backwards.
You start out dead and get that out of the way. Then you wake up in an old folk’s home, feeling better every day. You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work, you get a gold watch and a party on your first day. You work for 40 years until you are young enough to enjoy your retirement. You party, drink alcohol, and are generally promiscuous, then you are ready for school. You then go to primary school, you become a kid, you play. You have no responsibilities, you become a baby until you are born. And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service and then Voila! You finish off as an orgasm!
Advice of the day for all the horny men out there :
“Sex is the consolation you have when you can’t have love…”
“Transactional vs Sensual – Understanding the terms”
‘So serious’, ‘$$$’, ‘I juz wan love so stop talking abt money’, ‘You are spoiling my mood by talking abt budget & rates’… etc etc. These are some of the typical replies I receives whenever some new clients writes in asking for my services.
Where’s the sensuality? Where’s the proclaimed GFE? What so different abt u when u start talking abt monetary issues?
Well, I had told many that I’m not doing this for materialistic gains. I’m not here to get that $ to buy that handbag which I fancy when I walked down Bugis Junction. I fancy nice fashion but I’m in no dire need nor I hv the life to enjoy such luxury. I’m at Bugis not becos I was shopping but cos I was being pranked by idiotic cheapskates/lowballers.
One need to understand and be educated on the rules & terms of this entire escort or service sector. Yes, there are gals (mostly young chicks) doing this for their own luxury desires. There are also many like me who are doing this for other specific purposes in life. Yet, both groups are doing it for monetary nature unless u are talking to some gals who u had hooked up while clubbing who are doing it for pure NSA fun.
Back to the topic, one hv to understand that things dun move on if prices aren’t right. How could I be serving u wholeheartedly if both parties haven even agreed on the rates or ‘compensation’? I even hv clients telling me ‘let’s not talk abt $ first. We enjoy and rest assured that I’ll pay u well’. There are also some who says ‘Duration and shots doesn’t matter. Most impt is we enjoy. And I’ll make u enjoy too’. Wait. Hold ur horses. Are u seeking a wife or am I running a dating agency here? Earnings are impt to me. And all can be assured of my sensuality and GFE once we settled the monetary transactional aspects. Those who had engaged me before would knw.
Hv respect for me and my job, and u’ll get the services which ur lust desires.
I’m not seeking bf here. Neither am I looking out for gorgeous men to hv sex. Yes, I too enjoy the intimacy but pls do not lowball me or brush me off from the rates discussions and tells me how enjoyable u can make me. I’ll gv u an enjoyable time if my terms and policies are given the due respect. Do not come telling me that I’ll be rewarded if I served u well or if u enjoy wat I provides. I do not shortchange my clients nor do I goes around scamming them. I’m here to earn a living and things are mutual. Failing short, u’ll only get a deadfish on bed.
Understands the rules of the games before even getting into the bed. And for those lowballers out there: NO. I do not provide FJ at $100 or BJ at $50. If u don’t hv the budget, I suggest u save up or go get PRC instead. Those who I had served will knw the differences. Maybe I shld set up a Fan Club for exchanges of experiences and comments between my clients and newbies…
“Questions that better be kept unasked”
Day after day I’m being asked the same questions which one would think men would have better sense than to ask, but obviously don’t.
My ‘favorite’ one is, “Are you clean?” Now, think about this for a minute; do you honestly think I won’t be? And if you’re dealing with a streetwalker, do you honestly think she’ll tell you the truth if she isn’t? Just keep your eyes open and be as scrupulous as we are with condoms and you won’t have to waste your time with this pointless question.
Then there’s, “What’s your real name?” If I wanted you to have it, don’t you think I would have given it to you? Again, pointless.
Another such question is, “Is this legal?” How the hell am I supposed to answer that? I mean really! “No, I’m a criminal?”
An even worse (and unfortunately far more common) one is, “What do I get for my money?”
Other senseless questions includes, “How many men have you seen today?” or “Are you married?” or “Has anyone ever hurt you?” Maybe the real answers would turn you on, but they might also turn you off.
Don’t ask rude, stupid, pointless or prying questions, or those to which you don’t really want to know the answer.
“Show me yours and I’ll show u mine”
Working as an escort, I have seen naked bodies belonging to my clients in all sorts of positions, settings and lighting. Over the years I have become incredibly comfortable with human bodies and getting naked.
The raw commercial reality of selling sex and desire makes it increasingly obvious that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. That phrase gets new depth and credibility when you see its sentiment play out again and again in the intro rooms every night. Escort work taught me that for every body there is someone who thinks its sexy enough to pay for it. And its not just my body that I have become comfortable with, but ANY body. Through my work I have seen bodies of all shapes and sizes with all sorts of bodily functions and dysfunctions. I have learnt when to be gentle and work sensitively with other peoples insecurities and body image issues. I have ignored, discussed, nurtured and pleasured every type of physical and sexual hang-up you can imagine. Sometimes clients try to hide what they think is their abnormality for fear of rejection, humiliation or judgement, and some will be completely upfront in an attempt to avoid experiencing judgement or rejection at a later stage. Either way don’t let it effect your self esteem. I can decide who I will and won’t see as a client for any reason I want. For example some escorts won’t see a client from the same cultural background as them (for confidentiality), some may decline because they suspect those skin tags are actually warts or due to the clients disabilities. Some may even have a preference for age or any other kind of physical appearance. That’s completely up to each individual escort. But there are just as many escorts who will not see young men, married men, or clients with lots of muscles, for just as many reasons. And the majority of us only care that our clients are hygienic, respectful and prepared to pay our price.
I have seen so many different genitals and tummys and feet and chests and bottoms and backs and bodily and sexual function and dysfunction and attitudes and egos and insecurities, penis sizes and shapes, circumcised cocks, loose foreskins, foreskins so tight its joined at the top, pearls and ball bearings inserted underneath forskins, hard cocks, soft cocks, cocks that go up and down, wet orgasms, dry orgasms, lots of cum, barely any cum, cum that squirts in all directions, sunburn, blotchy skin, shaved skin, hairy bodies, lost hair, big ones, small ones, ultra sensitive and over stimulated, cum before their pants are off, requires specific actions to make cum, stretched skin, stretch marks, bruised, scars, tattoos, super soft and silky, one testicle bigger than the other, one ball gone, hanging low or high and tight balls, good kissers, bad kissers, old, young, all teeth, false teeth, some missing, business suits, casual clothes, sweating tees, golfing attire, work uniform, jeans and polo, poking out nipples, inverted nipples, hairy back, muscles, skinny, people from many cultures with many religions, scars and birthmarks, injuries, wounds, sex aids, medications, and I have seen all these things across all ages n abilities. I am always reminded that we are all human. We are all vulnerable. Whether we are being paid to use our bodies to sexually arouse others or if we are paying for our body to be aroused. We all bleed and excrete and have lumps and bumps. And we all have insecurities. Too many of us are too worried about our average and regular bodies. We are our own worst critics. Show me yours and u will see mine. It’s the sensuality we are after, not a beauty contest.
“Remember that we are business women and that this is our business”
You wouldn’t make a cashier have to ask for her money, and you shouldn’t make us ask either; different girls want the money handed over in different ways, but we all want it up front. Also, you wouldn’t expect a cleaner, waitress or other professional to “hang out” with you off the clock after the job for which she was contracted was done. While I’m trying to create an exciting sensual experience for you; don’t destroy it by forcing me to remind you that it’s service quality commensurating rates.
Be where you say you’re going to be when you say you’re going to be there. No point hiding around the corners while peeping at all the girls that passes by to catch a glimpse. Be a gentleman and if you don’t like what you see, have the integrity to own up and pay the rejection fee accordingly. I’m not here to scam or bug anyone. You travelled to location, so do I. I may have turned down other appointments to keep yours, and it isn’t my fault if you misplaced your balls at the last minute.
Keep your fingers outside of my body. As I mentioned in my dos and donts, no fingering. Not all gals likes it as much you lust for digging inside us. I strongly dislikes having dirty, rough, bumpy fingers forcibly inserted (often without warning or lubrication) into my vagina, anus or even mouth. Even surgically clean fingers with nails trimmed down to the quick can be terribly uncomfortable, and once you starts to wriggle them around violently, it can become acutely painful. If you had asked and get turned down, abide by the answer you get.
Don’t even ask to go without a condom. Even though we hear it all the time, it doesn’t mean it isn’t annoying or even infuriating. If you want a lady to think of you as an imbecile or a fool, “Do I have to use a condom?” is the most effective way. If you want to insult me at the same time, opt for “How much to do it without a condom?” instead.
Respect the limits. Just because you’ve hired a girl to do a job does not make her your slave (I said this statement many times). If I tells you I doesn’t “speak Greek”, don’t try to penetrate me anally, especially in the pretext of doing doggie (likewise for trying to remove condom ‘unsuspectingly’ during doggie). If I’m uncomfortable with some fetish you didn’t bother to warn me about, leave it alone. If I doesn’t want to give you my home number or let you take my picture, drop the subject. I’m not some naive schoolgirl you can seduce into doing something against my will; all you’re going to accomplish is annoying me and wasting the time you paid for, and if I feels threatened enough, I will leave and you will be out your money with nothing to show for it. Likewise, don’t attempt to pacify me by trying to lower my rates in the aspect of enticing me with a ‘promised’ long term regular engagement. I’m sure you will be pretty busy in times to come after enticing me with the deal.
Bottomline is : Above all else, just apply common sense and common courtesy; and treat an escort as you would treat any other businesswoman and you can’t go very wrong. You’ll be the kind of client every professional escort would like to see rather than the kind we dread, and you’ll find your experience is much more rewarding and fulfilling because of it.